By Gary Douglas Gary, what are a 2-3 of the top inhibitors to intimacy and how can couples overcome them? The top inhibitor to intimacy is judgment. You’ve got to be willing to let your partner be exactly who they are, and have no point of view about it. One of my wives used to say, “You’re too fat. You’re too skinny. You’re too muscly. You’re not enough. You need Rogaine. Everyday there was something that was wrong with me. >>>>